10.Ask yourself :How do I feel?
Ask yourself how do you feel. A map to start looking inside yourself
Do you want to change your life but don’t know where to begin?
Sometimes, the first true revolution starts with a simple question:
How do I really feel?
In this article, I’ll guide you in creating your personal map — a way to explore every area of your life and begin a dialogue with yourself.
You don’t need immediate solutions; what you need is an honest look.
From there, everything can change.
Why stop to ask, "How do I feel?"
We often live in automatism. But beneath the surface there is a voice that wants to speak.
"How do I feel?" is not just a question. It is a threshold. A door. A gesture of love toward you.
As Anna De Simone and Anna Maria Sepe write in Rewrite the Pages of Your Life:
"The time has come to invest your energy in someone who truly deserves your every attention:yourself. The time has come to take every fragment of you and handle it with care so you can put yourself back together and give birth to the extraordinary person you don't yet know you are."
The map of the 8 areas of life
A simple tool for inner clarity.
You can look at these areas like 8 petals of a flower: some open, some closed. No judgment. Just observation.
1. Body: physical well-being and listening to the body
How do you feel in your body today? Do you have energy or tiredness? Tensions, pains, ignored needs?
"The body does not lie. It is our living archive." - Bessel van der Kolk, The body takes the blow
2. Emotions: emotional awareness and acceptance
What emotions run through you most often? Do you recognize them, welcome them, or chase them away?
"What is named can be transformed." - Brené Brown, The Strength of Fragility
3. Mind: conscious thoughts and inner space
Is your mind supporting you or straining you? Are you struggling with thoughts or can you bring gentle attention to them?
"Thoughts are like clouds. You are not them." - Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever you go, you are already there
4. Relationships: quality of human connections
Do you feel seen, heard, welcomed in your relationships? Or isolated, judged?
"Healing relationships are not perfect, but true." - Carl Rogers
5. Work or project: personal fulfillment and meaning
Does what you do give you energy or take it away? Do you feel you express who you are or do you feel forced into a role?
"Work is love made visible." - Kahlil Gibran
6. Time and space: daily well-being and centering
Do you have moments just for you? Is there a space where you can find balance?
"Having time for oneself is not a luxury, but a vital need." - Clarissa Pinkola Estés
7. Spirituality and meaning: inner growth and connection
What do you believe in? Do you have a sense that orients you? Do you feel connected to something bigger?
"When you know your why, you can deal with almost any how." - Viktor Frankl
8. Money and security: relationship with economic resources.
Do you feel supported or struggling with money? Does it scare you, guide you, limit you, or nurture you?
"Money is a great spiritual teacher if you know how to listen to it." - Maria Gamb, Spirituality and Wealth
How to use this map in real life
For every petal in your life, you can ask yourself:
How do I look?
What do I want to have left?
What do I wish to change?
You can write it down, draw it, meditate on it. Do it in your own way. But do it with truth.
Honesty is already healing. And listening is the door to transformation.
Conclusion
This map is just a beginning.
It is not a rigid method, but a soft invitation.
To return to the center. To feel. To choose.
For you deserve to inhabit every part of your life, with presence and truth.
And whenever you get lost, you can come back here:
to the simplest and most powerful question there is -
How am I, really?
Sources of inspiration:
Anna De Simone & Anna Maria Sepe, Rewrite the pages of your life.
Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run with Wolves.
Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever you go, you are already there
Brené Brown, The Strength of Fragility
Bessel van der Kolk, The body takes the blow
Viktor Frankl, Man in Search of Meaning.
Mary Gamb, Spirituality and Wealth
